The First Unselfish Blog

I don't have as much time to sit back and ponder the state of mankind and the world around me as I would like and those of you who know me understand what a mistake that might even be for me to start pondering anything - never mind the state of mankind! That being said today I pondered for a good four minutes and came to a highly intellectual decision. First decision is that pondering only takes four minutes and the second is that no matter what we say or do it is all selfishness on our part.

That's right...everything we do is selfish and born out of selfishness.

Think of anything you have ever done...Why do we relax? Why do we try to do good things? Why do we get married? Why do some stay single? Why do we have kids?

I can hear some of you trying to argue with me, but don't forget I "pondered" this!!! Everything we do. traced back far enough, comes down to one single reason, the big me. Eventually everything comes to the bare fact that we think it's for our own good. We can try to find examples of how we have apparently given of ourselves for the good of others, but we have to admit it`s really because it made us feel good and our need to do good is born out of our need to feel good ... which happens when we help others.

If anyone can give me an example of one act in your life that was totally unselfish with no ulterior motive I would love to hear it. Just the fact that you would consider writing back would be considered a selfish act since you're trying to prove your point!! Nope, no getting around it.

There is only one way to deal with this...we need to realize that we are all flawed people since only someone perfect would be able to make unselfish decisions and the rest of us are simply doomed to being less than. The good news is that when we realize this, it gets easier to understand our friends, family, acquaintances and even those we might not consider friends. We no longer wonder why so-and-so disappointed us or why someone said this or that or was mean to us; simply put, their actions and words came out of selfish reasons and desires.

Perhaps some can hide this inherent problem better than others, but we all struggle with it.

I hope this blog helps to clear this up...because writing this blog was of course an unselfish act ... and if you believe that I have a bridge for sale!!